How to use these questions
- Answer the question yourself first. It shows how much to share and makes it a swap, not an interview.
- Ask one follow-up before moving on. “What happened next?” is often better than the next question.
- Start with the quick ones and save the deep ones for later, when people are relaxed.
- Anyone can pass. A question that makes someone uncomfortable is not a good question.
Fun get to know you questions
- What is a small thing that instantly improves your day?
- What did you want to be when you were younger?
- What is the last thing that made you laugh out loud?
- What is your comfort film or show?
- What is a hobby you would love to try?
- What is the best thing you have eaten this month?
- What is your favourite way to spend a Sunday?
- Are you a planner or a go-with-the-flow person?
- What song would play when you walk into a room?
- Which season suits you best, and why?
- What is a skill you are quietly proud of?
- What would your perfect day off look like?
- Where have you been that you would go back to tomorrow?
- What is your go-to snack?
- Which three apps do you open the most?
Deep get to know you questions
- What did you believe five years ago that you no longer believe?
- Who has had the biggest influence on the person you are now?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
- What is a risk you are glad you took?
- What is a lesson you had to learn more than once?
- What is a goal you have not told many people about?
- How do you like to be looked after when things go wrong?
- What is a small moment you still think about?
- What does home mean to you?
- What do you hope people say about you when you are not in the room?
- What do you wish more people asked you about?
- What are you looking forward to most this year?
- Which part of your life would surprise people most?
- What does a good friend do that most people forget to?
For couples, there are more in deep questions to ask your partner.
Get to know you questions for friends
- What is a memory with a friend you would happily relive?
- What makes you laugh that nobody else finds funny?
- In a group, are you the planner, the joker, the peacemaker or something else?
- What is an opinion you will defend forever?
- What is the best advice a friend has ever given you?
- What have you always wanted to do with your friends?
- What is your favourite tradition?
- What do people usually get wrong about you?
- What book, film or song changed how you see something?
- What would you do with a free weekend and no budget?
- What is the last thing you got really excited about?
- What is a phrase you say all the time?
Get to know you questions for a first date
- What is something you could talk about for hours?
- What does your ideal weekend look like?
- What are you most curious about right now?
- What is a small thing that makes you feel looked after?
- What family tradition would you keep?
- What was the best part of your week?
- What place would you love to show someone?
- What trip have you been dreaming about but not taken yet?
- Great conversation or shared adventure: which matters more to you?
- What is a green flag you look for in people?
- How do your friends describe you?
- What are you better at than most people?
More in first date questions and games and the games for new relationships.
Get to know you questions for work
Friendly and not too personal, for a new team, a first meeting or the start of a workshop.
- What was your very first job?
- What work skill did you pick up somewhere unexpected?
- What is the best advice a manager ever gave you?
- What does your perfect working day look like?
- What tool or habit saves you time every week?
- What are you learning outside work?
- What is the most interesting place you have ever worked from?
- If your job title described what you actually do, what would it be?
- What project are you proud of?
- How do you switch off after work?
- What is a fun fact your colleagues would never guess?
- Tea, coffee or neither?
- What is something you always bring to a new job?
For a remote team, these work well in virtual team building games, and the team icebreakers turn them into a game.
Get to know you questions for students
- If you could add one subject to school, what would it be?
- What is the best book you have read for school?
- Who has taught you the most, in or out of class?
- What would you do with a school day off and no homework?
- What club or team would you start?
- What is a skill you want to learn before you finish school?
- Which game, show or creator are you into right now?
- What is your favourite place in your town?
- What could you teach someone in five minutes?
- What do you think you will be doing in ten years?
Get to know you questions over text
Short answers, easy to reply to on a busy day, and each one gives you something to ask about next.
- What does the view from where you are look like right now?
- What is the last song you listened to?
- What did you have for breakfast, honestly?
- What is one thing on your to-do list this week?
- What are you watching at the moment?
- What is the best thing that happened to you today?
- Which emoji do you use the most?
- What are you looking forward to this weekend?
- What is your phone wallpaper, and why?
Play a get to know you game online
Letternerd’s Get to Know You is questions for two people who want to skip the small talk, answered by voice. The Deep End goes further: you answer out loud, then listen to theirs. Both run in the browser on your phones, live or over a few days, so they work for a new friend, a first date or someone far away.
- Get to Know You2–8 players · 11 minQuestions for two people who want to skip the small talk, answered by voice.
- The Deep End2–8 players · 16 minQuestions that skip the small talk. Answer out loud, then listen to theirs.
- Best Friend Test2–6 players · 10 minThey answer about themselves. Prove you know your friend.
- Know Your Person2–6 players · 10 minThey answer about themselves. You predict what they said.
Already know each other? In Best Friend Test and Know Your Person, one person answers about themselves and the other predicts what they said. For a group, How in sync are we? has everyone answer the same questions and shows which two of you think most alike. Quick either/or questions are in this or that questions.
Play the games from this post
Free in your browser. Share the room code and everyone joins from their own phone, no signup.
- Get to Know You2–8 players · 11 minQuestions for two people who want to skip the small talk, answered by voice.
- The Deep End2–8 players · 16 minQuestions that skip the small talk. Answer out loud, then listen to theirs.
- Best Friend Test2–6 players · 10 minThey answer about themselves. Prove you know your friend.
- Know Your Person2–6 players · 10 minThey answer about themselves. You predict what they said.
- How in sync are we?2–12 players · 5 minEveryone answers the same questions. Find out which two of you think most alike.
- Guess who3–12 players · 12 minOne friend answers. Everyone else guesses what they said.
Frequently asked questions
What are good get to know you questions?
Open questions that are easy to answer but lead somewhere: what made you laugh this week, what you wanted to be as a child, a place you would go back to. Avoid yes or no questions.
What are good get to know you questions for work?
Keep them friendly and not too personal: your first job, a skill you learned somewhere unexpected, how you switch off after work. They help a new team talk without anyone feeling put on the spot.
How do you ask get to know you questions over text?
Send one short question at a time and answer it yourself too. Questions about right now, like the last song you played or what you are watching, are easiest to reply to.
Is there a free get to know you game online?
Yes. Letternerd’s Get to Know You and The Deep End are free in the browser. Two people answer by voice on their own phones, with no download or account.