How to play this or that
It is the fastest question game there is. One person reads two options and everyone answers in a few seconds, without discussing it. First instinct only.
- Choose a section below that suits your group.
- Read one pair at a time. Everyone says or types their pick at the same moment.
- Score a point for each person who matches you, or just notice who keeps agreeing.
- After ten pairs, pick the most surprising answer and ask for the story behind it.
Funny this or that questions
- Have a tail or have whiskers?
- A cat that talks or a dog that drives?
- Socks with sandals or a suit with flip-flops?
- Live in a treehouse or on a houseboat?
- Pirate or ninja?
- Clap when the plane lands or cheer when the film ends?
- Tell a bad joke or laugh at one?
- Be chased by a goose or by a very small, very angry dog?
- Wear a cape every day or a crown every day?
- Ghost or alien?
- Talk to your plants or talk to the fridge?
- Spell everything wrong or say everything wrong?
- Always sticky or always slightly damp?
- Laugh at the wrong moment or sneeze in a silent room?
- Walk like a penguin or talk like a robot?
Food this or that questions
- Jollof rice or fried rice?
- Chips or mash?
- Pancakes or waffles?
- Crunchy peanut butter or smooth?
- Ice cream in a cone or in a cup?
- Breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?
- Toast cut in triangles or squares?
- Ketchup or mayo?
- Plantain or potato?
- Pizza crust: eat it or leave it?
- Fruit or chocolate?
- Street food or a fancy restaurant?
- Hot chocolate or a smoothie?
- Soup or salad?
This or that questions for couples
Ask these on a date, on a call, or over text when you are apart. The fun is predicting your partner’s answer before they say it.
- Love letter or love song?
- Picnic or candlelit dinner?
- Big gestures or small daily things?
- Share a dessert or get your own?
- Slow dance or silly dance?
- Plan the date or be surprised?
- Matching mugs or matching hoodies?
- Watch the sunrise or watch the stars?
- One long call or lots of short texts?
- Cook together or cook for each other?
- Visit their hometown or yours?
- Film night in or concert out?
- Relive the first date or plan the next one?
- Pet names or real names?
- Say sorry first or make up with snacks?
For couples who want a score, In Sync has you answer at the same time and only scores when you both pick the same thing. Long distance? Across Time Zones is either/or for two people miles apart. See more in long-distance relationship games.
This or that questions for friends
- Group holiday or a weekend with one best friend?
- Game night or karaoke night?
- Be the planner or the one who just turns up?
- Voice notes or long texts?
- Board games or video games?
- Tell a friend the truth about a bad haircut or say it looks great?
- Sleepover or day out?
- Funny friend or wise friend?
- Surprise party or quiet birthday?
- Posed group photo or candid shot?
- Sing in the car or talk in the car?
- Borrow clothes or borrow books?
- Best friends in the same city or in different countries?
- Movie marathon or a long walk?
This or that questions for kids and teens
Classroom-safe and quick, which makes them a good warm-up at the start of a lesson or a club.
- Maths or English?
- Science lab or art room?
- Front row or back row?
- Group project or work alone?
- Exams or coursework?
- PE or music?
- Packed lunch or school lunch?
- Homework straight away or at the last minute?
- School trip or sports day?
- Spelling bee or science fair?
- Highlighters or plain pen?
- One long summer holiday or more short breaks?
- Class quiz or class debate?
- Be the team captain or the coach?
- Notes on paper or on a laptop?
This or that questions for work
- Standing desk or comfy chair?
- Camera on or camera off?
- Morning meetings or afternoon meetings?
- Inbox zero or a thousand unread?
- Office snacks or office plants?
- Quick message or quick call?
- Headphones on or happy to chat?
- Long lunch or leave early?
- Work from home or from a café?
- To-do list on paper or in an app?
- Present the idea or write the report?
- Team lunch or team quiz?
- Four long days or five short ones?
- Desk by the window or desk by the kettle?
Running a remote meeting? See virtual team building games for games that fit in ten minutes.
Hard this or that questions
- Be right or be kind?
- Know the future or change the past?
- Lots of friends or a few close ones?
- Be loved or be respected?
- Freedom or security?
- Adventure or comfort?
- Never be bored or never be tired?
- Grow old in a big city or a small town?
- Live in the moment or plan ahead?
- Be well known or be left alone?
- Talent or hard work?
- Remember everything or forget the bad bits?
- Honest feedback or gentle feedback?
This or that questions over text
Send three at once and ask for answers in one message, like “A, B, A”. It keeps a quiet chat going without anyone having to write much.
- Emoji or full words?
- Reply straight away or reply when ready?
- Good morning text or goodnight text?
- GIF or sticker?
- Read receipts on or off?
- Dark mode or light mode?
- All lowercase or perfect punctuation?
- Group chat or one-to-one?
- Voice note or call back?
- Have the last word or let it go?
Play this or that online
Letternerd’s This or That is quick either/or for two to eight people. Everyone gets the same pairs on their own phone and scores when their answers match, so it doubles as a test of how alike you are. Host a room, share the code or link, and play live or over a few days. There is nothing to download and nobody needs an account.
- This or That2–8 players · 6 minQuick either/or for two or more. Score when your answers match.
- In Sync2–8 players · 8 minAnswer at the same time. Score only when you both pick the same thing.
- Two of a Kind2–8 players · 7 minFour answers, one pick each. Score when you read each other’s mind.
- 16 choices that show who you really are1–12 players · 4 minSixteen this-or-thats you will have a strong opinion on. Pick a side every time and see who you turn out to be.
Playing alone? 16 choices that show who you really are is sixteen this-or-thats you will have a strong opinion on, with a result at the end. For two friends, Two of a Kind gives four answers and one pick each, and you score when you read each other’s mind. When a pair needs more than one word, move on to would you rather questions.
Play the games from this post
Free in your browser. Share the room code and everyone joins from their own phone, no signup.
- This or That2–8 players · 6 minQuick either/or for two or more. Score when your answers match.
- In Sync2–8 players · 8 minAnswer at the same time. Score only when you both pick the same thing.
- Two of a Kind2–8 players · 7 minFour answers, one pick each. Score when you read each other’s mind.
- 16 choices that show who you really are1–12 players · 4 minSixteen this-or-thats you will have a strong opinion on. Pick a side every time and see who you turn out to be.
- Across Time Zones2–8 players · 8 minLong-distance either/or. Miles apart — are you still on the same page?
- How in sync are we?2–12 players · 5 minEveryone answers the same questions. Find out which two of you think most alike.
Frequently asked questions
What are good this or that questions for couples?
Pick pairs that reveal how you like to spend time together: picnic or candlelit dinner, plan the date or be surprised, one long call or lots of short texts. Guess your partner’s answer before they say it.
How do you play this or that over text?
Send a few pairs at once and ask for the answers in one reply. Or share a Letternerd This or That room, which can run over several days so everyone answers when they are free.
Can you play this or that online for free?
Yes. Letternerd’s This or That runs free in any browser for two to eight players. Everyone joins from a code or link as a guest, with no app to install.
What is the difference between this or that and would you rather?
This or that is fast: two short options and a gut answer. Would you rather gives two longer, harder scenarios and expects you to explain your choice.